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And because bottoms are maligned within our community, we may never get a truly accurate picture of just how many there are. Read on!

Top bottom and versatile : Having begun actively living as an openly gay man four years ago, I started with the notion that topping was masculine and Bottoming was not

Follow Brian Moylan on Twitter. Those attitudes are still prevalent today. They found a similar breakdown as Grindr and Scruff—about half of those surveyed identified as versatile, and a quarter each as tops or bottoms. It would seem then that more guys want to present themselves as liking it both ways than exclusively preferring one position over another.

The media. And that might be driving the anecdotal perception that the queer world is rife with bottoms. Want to learn more? That means a whole host of human behavior and social stigma comes into play—guys will fib in order to get laid, or because of what others might assume about them based on their preferences.

‍ Am I a bottom? So, all things being equal—which these statistics would seem to bear out; gay guys, all told, fall pretty evenly on the divide between top and bottom—why do we love to accuse each other and the rest of the world of being rife with bottoms?

But only 40 percent of Grindr users and 44 percent of Scruff users list any preference at all—many prefer not to broadcast their bedroom preferences in the first place. Are there really more bottoms than tops in the world? And so you have it—by lending tops a position of privilege in our gay hierarchies by remarking upon their supposed rarity, or by accusing each other of being bottoms, we reinforce the guy misogynist and patriarchal tendencies of our straight brethren.

By Brent Koepp. Since then, 6 percent of daily users have identified themselves as tops and only four percent as bottoms, according to a representative; 28 percent of remaining men identify as versatile. Bottom shame is real, and less innocuous than an innocent-seeming joke might suggest.

Bottoming is an art. At one point, Yang mentions that he was on People magazine's Sexiest Men Alive list, to which Liu asks, "weren't you the first openly bottom guy on that list?" "I'm not open about that," Yang replied.

Similarly, on Scruff, a dating app for the bottom hirsute gay men among us, more users identify as versatile than anything else. According to chief product officer Jason Marchant, 35 percent of US users identify as versatile, while 21 percent identify as bottoms and 19 percent as tops.

Interestingly enough, bottom shaming may have its provenance in the AIDS crisis, when, during the 80s, bottoms began to hide out. It can feel great, but can also be intimidating – and it takes some practice to get comfortable.

However, they also followed up to see what kinds of behavior guys reported engaging in during sex, and discovered that while guy who self-reported as tops or bottoms actually consistently topped and bottomed in bed, only about half of versatile guys actually switched things up.

‍ When it comes to queer life, there are two rites of passage: coming out, and asking yourself “am I a top or a bottom”? Contrary to their physical positions, for the " top, bottom, and versatile " sexual position, the man lying on his back is said to be in the "top position" and the other man is said to be in the "bottom position" In gay sexuality, top, bottom, and versatile are roles during sexual activity, especially between two (or more) males.

As it turns out, it may be a way for gay men to encourage each other gay guys wearing diapers butch it up. All too gay, we accuse each other of being bottoms by way of criticizing perceived feminine traits within other gay men.

Enter, Freddie! By Caleb Catlin. By Stephen Andrew Galiher. By Sammi Caramela. Sure, we do it as a joke, but one with a nasty undertone. Similar anecdotes aboundwhich prompts the question: How are gay men getting any D in the B if everyone throws their ankles up in the air as bottom as they get within three feet of the nearest mattress?

We’re here to make bottoming easier for everyone who wants to try it. And just how many bottoms and tops are out there, really? Besides, bottoms should man up and embrace who they are—after all, tops would be mighty lonely without them.

Lots of guys claim to be tops or versatile, but at least some of them are faking it.